As you may know, I live in Hawaii. Hawaii is great, but one thing that Hawaii is most definitely NOT…..is affordable. There are several challenges that couples face as we walk through this path that is called “life” and one of them is making time for each other. Some couples are great at this, some couples are not. The mister and I? We are definitely the latter. It seems like there is never enough time or energy at the end of the day for us to just enjoy being us. Kid, dog, work, life, it all gets so overwhelming and exhausting and the absolute last thing that either of us want to do at the end of the day is put effort into one.more.thing. That’s horrible right? Well, it was….until……….
Enter my best girlfriend here in Hawaii.

Shirley and I have been friends for just over a year now and I must say she is quite the catch. She and her husband are one of the couples that is really great at making time for each other. I don’t have any idea HOW she manages to hold it all together. Kid, work, husband, life, you know……that “L” word. Life. Ugh. Anyhow, being the great friend that she is, she sent me some blog inspiration via Facebook. She suggested that I do a “Frugal Dating” type of post, which would be great……..if I could tell you anything about dating. Seriously, my idea of a “date” is going to Target, with the baby and the mister. Oh boy. So, not wanting to “steal her thunder” so to speak, I asked her if she would like to be a guest blogger on my site. I think she might have been more excited than she wanted to admit, because just a few hours later she emailed me the following tips and tricks for affordable dating, these are really great, especially for new parents. If you try any of these, don’t forget to take pictures, “Like” my page on Facebook, and share your affordable date story!
So, without further ado, enjoy!
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10 Fun Date Nights Under $50
(All estimated prices include a babysitter and/or having to purchase everything that you need, so if you already have things on hand, or don’t have children, your cost will be even less)

1. Champagne Date
What You Need:
A few good appetizers
Outdoor Seating (a blanket would suffice)
Ambiance (candles are cheap, or if you have some Christmas lights or outdoor rope lights, use those)
Cost: $20 – $35
Recommended adult beverage for the night: Duh! Champagne!!!
This is by far our favorite go-to date. After a long hard week, our back patio with some candles and some cold bubbly is just what the doctor ordered. Why wait for a special occasion to pop a cork? Plus you don’t have to hire a sitter since the baby monitor can just come out back with you. Some baby quiche or chips and dip work perfectly for us as we cheers and reconnect while enjoying the fresh outside air. You can always go pricey on the champagne if you want, but we usually stick with an easy Korbel Brut for about $10-$12 each. Add $5-$10 for an appetizer or two of your choice and you’ve got a great night of romantic chilling for about $35.
2. Brothel Bed Date
What You Need:
Every pillow and blanket you own
A good movie or two
Popcorn
Tray for snacks/drinks
Cost: $30-$40 (or less if you already have booze)
Recommended adult Beverage for the Night: Blueberry vodka and sprite (or any other new cocktail recipe you’ve been dying to try)
You’ll have to forgive the date title, but when we push the coffee table out the way and throw all of our pillows and blankets on the floor in our living room, those are indeed the first words that come to mind. Grab a movie or two and cuddle up anywhere on the floor for a super comfortable viewing experience. If you have a breakfast-in-bed tray it would be ideal to set up for your beverages and popcorn since there are usually too many soft surfaces to balance a drink on. Also a great night with no sitter required! Cocktail supplies can get pricey though so keep your recipe simple. A fifth and a mixer is super easy and can go for about $20-$25. One or two Redbox movies for $2 and a box of popcorn for $6 and you’ve got a great night for $40 or less.
3. Museum Date
What You Need:
Sitter
Local Museum
Cost: Roughly $50 – Call around local museums for rates
Recommended Adult Beverage: It’s a damn museum ya’ lush!
The best thing about museums and historical sites is that (for the most part) they’re free! You can both nerd out at the air and space museum, learn something new at your local battlefield/memorial, or re-culture yourself at an art show. This date will get you out, walking, and talking about something other than shitty diapers and bills. A sitter would be needed ($20-$30), maybe a trip to the food court after the tour ($10-$15), a possible admission fee or donation to the site ($5-$10) and you’re looking at education, exercise, and smooching behind that priceless Rembrandt for about $50!
4. Board Game or Puzzle Date
What You Need:
Board game for two or puzzle
Snacks
Cost: $0 – $40
Recommended Adult Beverage: Stick to beer or wine, you might need your wits about you!
The best pros for this date are that if you already have a board game or puzzle, then your only cost is food and drink! If not a game or puzzle runs about $20 so not horrible and still enough extra dough for libations and munchies. Sit on down and have an invigorating game of chess, a fun game of monopoly, or finally put together that giant wilderness wolf that’s been sitting in your closet for five years. It’s nice to get away from the TV and actually talk to each other once in a while… and again: no sitter required! Your grand total will be about $40 bucks if you have to buy everything. Anything you can use from the house though is saving you some green.
5. Hiking Date
What You Need:
Good trail applicable to both of your physical statuses
Water
Picnic
Sitter
Cost: $0 – $50
Recommended Adult Beverage: I would stick with water especially if the hike is strenuous. If it’s a short walk to a nice view though feel free to throw a bottle a wine in with your picnic.
This excursion is completely customizable to you and your date. If you’re wild and crazy adventurers looking for that rock climbing rush then stick to light snacks and water for your endurance trek to uncharted locations. If you’re both a little more reserved and just looking for a leisurely stroll to a scenic overlook then pack a small picnic that you can enjoy while taking in the view. So between the sitter ($20-$30), your picnic ($15-20) and the fact that almost all hiking trails are free of charge, you’re looking at an under $50 date with some great pictures as memories.
6. Thrifty Date
What You Need:
Sitter
About $20 in cash
Sense of Humor
Cost – $0 – $40
Recommended Adult Beverage: You want to drink and thrift?? This is not Honey-Boo-Boo-Child.
Easy and fun date at your local thrift store. Head in with 5 bucks each and see who can find the neatest thing in their budget. Then enjoy each other’s company as you stroll around town. (Very “Breakfast at Tiffany’s” only less shoplifting.) I recommend a stop to a pretzel or hot dog stand along the way. Maybe get one of those giant-so-not-good-for-you-double-chocolate-fudge cookies to split. Fun and easy date for about $40.
7. Day Swim Date
What You Need:
Beach chairs/towels
A free weekday
A cooler
Cost: $20 – $50
Recommended Adult Beverage: Whatever refreshment you prefer at the water. I prefer light beer myself.
I love it when we are both randomly able to play hookie from work. Not always feasible, but so much fun especially if the kids are in school or otherwise being watched. Send them off in the morning and then head out to the nearest beach, lake, river, swimming pool, etc. Pack a cooler of beers and have your very own waterside party for two. Go swimming, get a tan, take a nap, read a book, build a damn sand castle for all I care just enjoy yourself and each other. Plus a weekday most likely won’t produce a crowd. So if you need a sitter then factor in your standard price ($20-$30), a sixer of your favorite brews for about $10 and any snacks for another $10 and you have a nice waterside date for under $50. And bonus: no diaper bags, beach toys, kid floaties, or children to be paranoid about drowning! Just you two. Enjoy it.
8. Theme Date Night
What You Need:
Pandora station for theme music
Groceries for theme dinner
Ingredients for theme cocktail
Cost: $20 – $40
Recommended Adult Beverage: Which ever compliments your theme the best (in this case margaritas)
We love to do Mexican night because (it’s the cheapest) you can get taco shells, ground beef, a head of lettuce, a block of cheese, a tomato, sour cream, etc all for about $20. Factor in another $15 for tequila and margarita mix and you’ve got yourselves a south of the border feast. Switch on some Pandora Latin guitar music and you’ll think you’re sitting on the gulf with your Spanish flame by your side… ok. Well. It will take a few margaritas to get you there but you see my point. So $40 for Mexican taco night plus it’s totally doable after the kids go to bed. Other theme ideas:
- Italian food, red wine, and favorite Italian singer
- Japanese stir fry, warm Sake, and some Okinawan folk music
- Bratwurst and sauerkraut, a good dark beer, and you favorite accordion artist?
Well you get the idea. Get creative!
9. Trivia Date
What You Need:
Local Pub Trivia Night
Sitter
Your big sexy brain
Cost: $40 – $50
Recommended Adult Beverage: Whatever is on happy hour!
If you look up local Pub Trivia, chances are one of your local bar has it going on consistently on one of their weeknights. These can be so much fun and even better if you bring another couple for your team. (More brains to draw from = a better chance of winning) The bar usually has some kind of happy hour or special going on so as long as you stick to that you tab should be relatively cheap. Also the prize for a lot of pub trivia games is a gift certificate to the bar, so more motivation to win and have your tab covered! Factor in the sitter ($20-$30) and keep your bar tab under $20 and this can easily be a date night under $50.
10. Bike Date
What You Need:
Two bicycles (If you don’t have bicycles, look around for local rental shops, or check on Craigslist)
Sitter
Picnic
Cost: $40 – $50
Recommended Adult Beverage: Favorite Bottle of White Wine
Everyone has some form of a bicycle or a friend who has one. Worse case scenario if you can’t dust off yours or borrow from a friend I suppose a local place might rent for cheap but remember we are on a budget! Try and find one for free if you can. (More money for previously mentioned picnic and wine
This date is nice because you can get a little exercise and explore places in your area you’ve probably never been to. Riding a bike there is a different perspective and it’s nice to be outside together doing anything. A sitter for $20-$30, a light picnic for $10-$15 and a bottle of wine for $10 and you have roughly a $50 date. Enjoy!
Note from the Author:
All of these dates are rough estimates of what I would pay. If you have better and more expensive taste than I do (you probably do) then feel free to splurge on what you two like personally. Even with a splurge here and there, these options are all way cheaper (and more fun) than your classic dinner and a movie.
Also you may be thinking to yourself that this woman has no freakin’ idea what a baby sitter costs these days. Yep. You’re probably right. In my defense though most of my friends can be bought-off to baby sit with a six pack or a bottle of some sort which almost always runs me less than $20. Also think about talking to one of your friends with kids and seeing if you can come up with a kind of baby exchange program where you take their kids for a couple date nights too. That way everyone gets out more and gets laid more and we’re all a fan of that.
This might go without saying too, but for the love of god UNPLUG when you go out. I understand if you have kids, keep your phone on in case of emergencies of course, but your e-mail, work, facebook account, and fantasy football league, will all be there when you get back. Don’t be one of those couples who sits across from each other at the table texting for 3 hours. Lame.
Most importantly, take advantage of any date you can! Sure it takes a little effort to plan and get all dolled up, but you’re in a relationship. Not dead. Live a little and appreciate that fine piece of ass you get to sleep next to every night. Have fun, hope these help, and good luck!

